Thank you Amanda for letting me think out loud on what of the deepest subjects on my heart right now!
I’m finding that social media is a double edged sword. It is something that can be used for good or for evil. Sadly, many do use it for evil, and that’s why I want to talk about the ‘pretenses of social media’ that seem to be so prevalent among many of the ‘advertisements’ nowadays.
One of the biggest things I’ve struggled with is that the most popular ‘social’ media/media often casts the worst light on what it is to be ‘healthy.’
Sometimes, my version of being healthy is (For me: Not being anxious or stressed about what I’m eating or about a lack of healthy options) is eating a big fluffy pile of whipped cream on top of a huge smoothie with my beautiful little friend. And I thank God for all the memories made.)
Who else catches these advertisements on social media sites?
- ‘Get your best body now,’
- ‘Slim down in 5 minutes per day.’
- ‘Get a six pack by working out for 10 minutes a day’
- ‘Try this diet so you can slim down in 2 weeks.’
Has anybody else read this post? Elle has hit on one of the greatest downfalls of social media. So much of it is fake. So much of it isn’t honest. I’m so tempted to ‘not post’ a picture often just because it’s not ‘good enough’ or it doesn’t show my best side. It’s so easy to stage a photo to make a person look ‘just right.’ It turns the ‘bad’ side of the person away from the camera. It airbrushes, because unlike God, my almighty Father, men look on the outside, not on the heart.
I still struggle with this when I see someone who just looks like they have the ‘perfect body’ or the ‘perfect life’, because I have been so broken for so long. I’m a mess, being daily sanctified by Jesus Christ. I have been saved by Jesus Christ, and because of Him, I can live and breathe and be WHOLE again!
Please don’t get me wrong and think that I’m saying that you should never take good pictures, but your worth is not determined by the quality of the pictures you take. And it’s okay to show the less pretty parts of your life, because it reminds all of us that you are real, that you’re not perfect, and that you’re not ‘there yet.’
But my life is not perfect, and it won’t be perfected here on this earth. I can’t present a side of myself to you that isn’t real. I can’t pretend that my life is perfect, that I never cry, never struggle, never sink into despair.
Yet, as a child of Christ, I can’t wallow in my problems either. My problems are NOT bigger than my God. I have a great God whose love is greater than all my sins. I have a great God who has promised a home with Him in heaven. I am laying up my treasures with Him, in heaven, and every picture I take has to be with that mindset.
Every day is a day of walking to the cross and repenting, of falling down, and thanking God that He has redeemed me, that I don’t have to walk and live in the shadow of ED. ED is a prison, but the love of God is not. It is a delight to walk in His love.
The pretenses of social media are a prison. Don’t get caught in them, please. Don’t be afraid to show your ‘bedhead’ to everyone. Don’t be afraid to show your messy house. My room is messy sometimes, but that’s not wrong. It’s not wrong to have cellulite. I have it. It’s not wrong to miss a workout to go eat some ice-cream. And you can share that too, because healthy living isn’t stress over whether you are healthy or not.
You don’t have to have a six pack to be ‘worth it.’ You were made in the image of God. You have a soul. You are precious, fearfully and wonderfully made in Him, and that was true before social media ever came about on this earth.
This is who I am, and for that I’m so grateful.
As a child of God, this is my healthy living motto. It comes from Proverbs 3:3-8, ‘Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart:So shalt thou find favour and good understanding in the sight of God and man. Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.’
These verses have been LIFE to me. The opinions of the world drained me. They made me fight for something that wasn’t worth fighting for, but this is worth fighting for, and I’m going to fight for this. On the days that I want to be ‘depressed’ about an ‘unfollow’ on my Instagram account, I want to turn back to Jesus and say, ‘You alone, Lord I need. You alone are my all in all. Because you first loved me, I can love you and I can love others.’
Last of all I have to thank ALL of my blog friends and Instagram friends who share on social media even during days that they are struggling. I’m thankful that Ashley, Megan, Julia, Alison, Susie, Kate, Ivanna, and so many other bloggers are not afraid to share every part of their days, including the hard or tough times.
These women and men have inspired and encouraged me to keep sharing my own struggles. I want to keep letting you know that recovery is not easy, but that it’s worth it. For that reason, I love social media, because these ladies and guys are always pressing me to be MORE real, not more fake. There’s nothing better than to speak TRUTH by your life, to walk in the light. Daily, it’s an opportunity to show my imperfections and just how much I need Jesus and to focus my eyes WHOLLY on Him, because He is worthy of my worship and praise.
It’s worth it to be a child of God on this earth. I have peace in that. I won’t ever find peace in people thinking that ‘my life is perfect’, because I’m defined by Jesus, by my Heavenly Daddy, and that is the best security in the world!
So, I need you to keep me accountable to being real. Ask me questions about my struggles at firstname.lastname@example.org, and I will do my best to answer your questions in my own small way.
What do you think about the way social media is used? How do you keep the balance?