I am still single. Yes, I am not in a romantic dating relationship even though I’m 23.5 years old. Never mind the fact that I look like I’m 17, because the birth certificate says otherwise, but I have to share that sometimes I wish I was married. I don’t know the exact plans the Lord has for my life, but right now I’m content being single. And dare I say, that I think it’s actually really helped my recovery from an eating disorder to stay single at this point in my life.
I’ve thought about this a lot especially because I love following several mamas on their blogs, and my heart does yearn to be a mommy and a wife at times, but right now I’m content being single. Why?
However, I’m not averse to the idea of getting married, because I want to learn and grow with someone who loves Jesus too, who has been redeemed too, and someone who wants to seek God together…
Is this what the Lord has for me? I’m not sure, but right now I’m pursuing life with a passion and a joy that I haven’t had in a long time.
However, one of the biggest questions on my mind is, ‘How can these single years be fruitful and how can I grow without pining away after marriage?
I have a few thoughts I would love to share, and i would also love to hear your thoughts on single-hood.
6 Ways to Enjoy and Embrace Being Single
#1) Read the Psalms and bask in the wonder of the gospel, the wonder of thirsting after God and being fulfilled in Him.
Psalm 16:11 says, ‘Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.’
#2) Read and listen to other parts of Scripture and soak in God’s truth.. Be reminded that life is far more than getting married. Marriage is an INCREDIBLE gift from God, and I’ve been so thankful to see my parents live out the journey for 26 years. But life in Christ can start right now, as you’re a new creature in Him, washed by His blood, and fully absorbed in His love.
#3) Find ways you can use your God given gifts to bless others. Don’t over extend yourself, but do what God has placed right in front of you. You don’t have to go all the way across the world to be a blessing. You can start in your own back yard.
#4) Enjoy life. Enjoy God and His goodness. Learn to trust in Jesus and soak in the truth of His life and death for your sins. Walk in His freedom. Learn to rest and wait on Him.
‘Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.’ (Psalm 37:4-5)
#5) Don’t let the moments pass you by. Savor each one. Watch that movie; eat that cookie with your sister, laugh with them. Go play in the snow with your dogs. Don’t wait for what isn’t yet. God has that in His control; you are here to just trust and walk by faith in the journey…
‘The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand.’ (Psalm 37:23-24)
#6) Don’t OVERTHINK it. Just live. Just live. Living is a gift. Don’t take that for granted… Live. Walk slowly. Think… Enjoy and be thankful.
#7) Trust in Jesus. Jesus Christ will never fail you. He is the most important relationship in the world, because He reconciles us to God, the One we were ultimately made and designed for…
‘Father, I will that they also, whom thou hast given me, be with me where I am; that they may behold my glory, which thou hast given me: for thou lovedst me before the foundation of the world. O righteous Father, the world hath not known thee: but I have known thee, and these have known that thou hast sent me. And I have declared unto them thy name, and will declare it: that the love wherewith thou hast loved me may be in them, and I in them.’ (John 17:24-26)
Even if I don’t experience the kind of marriage that my parents have, I’m a daughter of God, part of the bride of Christ, and that will always keep me full. . .
And if marriage should come along the way, I’m excited to share that part of the journey too….
More Peanut Butter will probably be consumed along the way too…
1. Are you single? What have you learned about being single?
2. Would you like to get married? Have you ever been in a dating/courting relationship?
3. What are some blessings of being single or vice versa if you’re married?
Linking up with Amanda and all the blogger friends, because I thought this would be a fun topic to ‘think out loud’ about for many of us?