As a girl, I can say that we are ENORMOUSLY affected by the eating of peers around us. I’ve become much more sensitive to this in myself and in others when I go to baby showers, bridal showers, or other social meals. Yet, I’ve also learned to listen to the truth of God’s Word in my head about the body and my eating, rather than the lies of the world, and the lies of comparison that want to consume me.
Some of the thoughts that go through my head when in a social situation (not including being with my family) are:
Why can’t I eat that little and stay skinny and not be hungry?
I wonder if she ever eats sugar?
She’s so much healthier than me, but I would be starving if I ate like that.
It’s comparison. It’s really idolatry of what other people, and other peers think of us.
Think about this. What if we went back to eating like we did when we were kids? When you were 5, did you think about how much the other 5 year old was eating and that you shouldn’t eat more than them?
I didn’t. I grew up in a home that was very balanced about food. We weren’t obsessed with health foods or fad diets, but we didn’t consume junk food 24/7 either. We didn’t discuss nutrition, but I followed my parent’s example. It wasn’t until I began being discontent with the body that I had, gazing longingly at the images of girls, whose bodies looked ‘perfect.’ Where did that definition of perfect come from anyways?
Every person is different. Every body is unique.
Stop comparing. You have the appetite, the caloric need, the body you have, because God gave it to you. Psalm 139 says that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Let’s go back to our childhood again and learn what it is to eat with gratefulness and not caring what the WORLD says beauty is because what God says beauty is, is SO much more important.
Proverbs 31:30 says, ‘Charm is deceitful. Beauty is vain, but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.’