Let’s talk about social media. I know I’ve talked about it before. I think I’ve been learning things since then. Ivanna especially really caused me to think more about it with this post. Georgie also sparked more thought on it with this post. It made me think, ‘How do we find our tribe?’
I know we aren’t meant to be close friends with every single person that we run into; however my goal and prayer most of all is that I won’t be going around making enemies on purpose. I really don’t want to be a jerk to you, but I am called to be wise and discerning by my Lord on who I spend my time with; my question is, ‘How do I keep the balance????’
I’ve struggled with this. First of all, the people right in front of me, my beloved family, are the closest tribe I’ve got, and I don’t want to sacrifice their relationships for other relationships.
However, I’ve also found friends on social media that have been incredibly amazing and wonderful to follow and learn from and grow with; they are also friends that I treasure.
Ever since I started following people on social media, I’ve learned a few things. I thought I would share some of those lessons here.
I want to be genuine about the friendships, and I can’t maintain 200+ genuine friendships on Instagram. So how do I find the right tribe to invest in and be open to where the Lord leads the friendships?
First of all, I think it’s important to define what your priorities are; and remember that your priorities aren’t going to be the exact same as someone else.
What are some of those priorities for me?
(I wanted to share some of mine so you might be able to maybe make your own list)
Priority List For Social Media:
1. I love following people who are positive and joyful, people who truly make an effort to be grateful and find the joy in life.
2) People that point me to Jesus, people that remind me that I need Jesus, and the beauty of God’s grace and salvation.
3) People who aren’t rigid about a certain way of eating. I am so not against you being vegan or vegetarian, but the vein/niche that I’m called to is more of the:
Freedom to Eat All Foods in Moderation
Body Image Freedom
4) People who steer more away from body photos; I’m not upset at you for sharing them, but they just aren’t helpful for recovery or comparison.
5) People whose content I’m genuinely interested in.
Now how is Em doing on this list?
For some reason, I love having a big friends list on Facebook. Yet, I love to follow less on Instagram, because the interactions on there are more daily and personal. I’ve realized after a few months or a year that not everybody is meant to be your tribe.
It’s okay if your tribe isn’t me. It’s okay if you read this and think, ‘Well, maybe Em isn’t part of my tribe.’ I will not be offended, because I understand that; I won’t feel like you don’t care. I just know that we’re not the right people for each other.
We have to be wise about the content we consume. We have to be wise about the friends we are with; I haven’t been wise enough about it. This is going to be a process. Don’t worry about offending me if you need to move on from our relationship; if I’m not part of your tribe! <3 I will totally give you a hug should we ever meet!
Social Media. It isn’t the ultimate measure of friendship. Yet, in every relationship I have ask Jesus to help me be sensitive, kind, truthful with myself and others, and understanding because I am dealing with other humans who have love, hurt, stories, tears, and eternal destinies. I’m praying that the Lord would enable me to see this more and more.
Colossians 3:12-14, ‘Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.’
Where are you finding your tribe?
What’s your priority list for social media?